It's been a while but I am back

I know its been a while but now that I have some time to breathe its nice to blog cause you want to and not because you have to... So Christmas holidays were nice, got to spend time with the fam but let me keep you up to speed on what's bee.n happening on the love front, so you know I recently manage to catch another unsuspecting man to be my mate and his name is Leon. I have to say that he has gone way beyond the call of duty of a boyfriend to make me feel loved and help me through some really tough times

That's him, he doesn't like taking pictures for some reason...I think he has the cutest smile.

Besides that, a lot of my friends got married this year and I got to be apart of it, which I have to say I was honoured to be apart of but here some scandal for you I was seen with another handsome gentleman that stole my heart....

That's him! Triston, my best mate, Cynthia's son!! He is so sweet and I am not going to lie, he has stolen my heart

So if I wasn't working I was attending / emceeing weddings and I always had my trustee girls that I could blow off some steam with

That's my girls!! And honestly, this is us when we are well-behaved. We are all a little nutsos and that's why we all get along so well!

As I approach the end of the year, I usually take stock of all I have done and what I am looking foward to do. I haven't spent time with a real close friend of mine and that is something I am definitely going to start doing. Her name is Shareena and she has been one of the best friends a girl could ask for, I am looking forward to seeing her soon cause its just been too long since we have done one of these.......

Shareena and I in Cambodia

So 2011 is about quality of life and what I want out of it and not it out of me.

HOW TO BREAK UP WITH A NICE GUY

It’s easy to leave someone who hasn’t treated you well: You give them

a piece of your mind and then say goodbye. But what if you find
yourself in a relationship with a “nice guy”? He’s kind, sensitive,
not a game-player or emotionally manipulative, but he just doesn’t “do
it” for you.

Perhaps you’ve decided you’re more into “bad boys,” or maybe you’re
just bored, but for whatever reason you want to get out of the
relationship. Breaking up with a nice guy takes a little more
finesse.

The traditional advice holds true: A telephone call generally isn’t
appropriate (unless it’s long-distance, or other circumstances demand
it). An email isn’t any nicer, and a text message is inexcusable. The
only nice way is in person.

Arrange a time to see him so that you can tell him how you feel. Once
you’re together, it’s best to say what’s on your mind sooner rather
than later. You don’t want to have to fake your feelings or pretend
that everything is OK.

There’s no easy way to let him know. The words you’ll say will depend
on the exact reason you want to leave, but let him know that he
deserves someone who wants to be with him with all her heart…but right
now that person isn’t you.

This may be difficult for him to hear. On the other hand, he may have
felt the same, but because he is a nice guy, he didn’t have the heart
to tell you. If you’re really lucky, he’ll be relieved, and you can
relax and start on a journey towards “just-friendship.”

Of course, he may be crushed and feel horrible. Tell him how sorry you
are to cause him any pain. If he tells you how much he loves you, ask
him if he would be happy with someone who didn’t love him equally. The
only reasonable answer is “no.”

Most nice guys are great, but for others it’s just a mask behind which
they can manipulate people. Watch out for emotional manipulation:
attempts to elicit pity, accusations of cruelty and selfishness, or
other similar behavior. You can cut him some slack because of his
pain, but be careful of taking him back out of sympathy.

If you’re overcome with guilt, relax: We all sign up for the
possibility of heartbreak when we enter a relationship. You owe him
your honesty, compassion and kindness. You don’t owe him another
chance, sex, or anything else that you don’t want.

Finally, remember to be cautious about pursuing a friendship – give
him a proper amount of time to recover (which will vary depending on
the length of the relationship). Here’s a good test: If you think
he’d feel bad when hearing about your new boyfriend, you shouldn’t be
friends.

Happy Birthday Hard Rock!

So I know it was quite some time ago but I am a little upset with myself for not telling you how much fun I had Hard Rock's 1st anniversary party.... The bands were simply, the crowd was beautiful and the food and drink .... was just i unspeakably good. I wish I could bring every one of you for Hard Rock parties because I simply have the best time there. Thank you to Tommy Ong and Elisa for having us. I have to say I haven't seen a party that well organised in a while. But enough talk ...a picture paint a thousand words, so here are some photos of the fun we had

At the press briefing before the event

My favourite band; Bongga Bongga. They are so good and great guys

Fire-breathing by the beach... great bondfires there throughout the night too

Pizza tossing acrobatics, it was amazing!!

Look how beautiful the tent was and the amount of people!!

That was the 1st Anniversary birthday cake, it had to be cut with a chainsaw!!

The french Bono, his record sales in France have not been broken even to this date. I got to find out why first hand, this man is simply musical genius!

Tommy and I having a blast!

Tommy and I doing a Terry (The next time you see Terry from the Red Drive dance, look at his face...it's that exact same pout ;) Tommy does it better!)

Everyone was in the mood to part-a-y!!

Not a very good picture but the fireworks were amazing!

Wilfred Owen

A picture of the poet - Wilfred Owen

You know being an English lit major in I got to indulge in poetry and Emily Dickinson was a favourite among my many female English Lit. friends, but of course yours truly, needed some blood and gore and a bit more drama....always more drama. In fact, that should be my motto. Anyway, in looking at the many great poets of all time, I stumbled on a British poet who was also a soldier in the first world war. His poems are often, gruesome and grey but they are powerful and very emotional pieces. Although I think it is unjust to categorise his poetry, he is often known as a war poet... His poetry moved me as a teenager and continues to be a great source of inspiration for me in my life. Since I felt such a connection to him, I wanted to share on of my favourite poems with you....





Greater Love





Red lips are not so red


As the stained stones kissed by the English dead.


Kindness of wooed and wooerSeems shame to their love pure.


O Love, your eyes lose lureWhen I behold eyes blinded in my stead!


Your slender attitudeTrembles not exquisite like limbs knife-skewed,


Rolling and rolling thereWhere God seems not to care:


Till the fierce love they bearCramps them in death’s extreme decrepitude.


Your voice sings not so soft,—


Though even as wind murmuring through raftered loft,—


Your dear voice is not dear,


Gentle, and evening clear,


As theirs whom none now hear,


Now earth has stopped their piteous mouths that coughed.


Heart, you were never hot


Nor large, nor full like hearts made great with shot;


And though your hand be pale,


Paler are all which trail


Your cross through flame and hail:


Weep, you may weep, for you may touch them not.





-Wilfred Owen-

Too much?

I have to say I love what I do, so when it comes to my carrier sometimes I get slightly carried away working. Okay, I am a workaholic, I have no qualms working mornin, noon and night. In fact, I welcome it, that way I really feel like I have deserved my weekend. However, in the process of doing this, I have lost friends and the closeness that I used to share with my family. I know that I should make time, and I think I do within reason but lately the voice of reason in my life ie. my bf has been telling me to relook at the way I do things. "How long are you going to keep doing this? You mean, you are going to keep this up all your life?" "I don't think I can," was my reply. But while I am still young I feel now is the time to do all that I can do. You see I feel that I am very well-adjusted. When I was in school I was very involved in the theatre and the like so besides the usual education that you get out of your primary and secodary school, I also learnt confidence and how to express myself. In college, I worked and studied for most of it and managed to graduate with good grades. I made the most of the experience while I was away from my parents and took baby steps in learning how to be a full-blown adult. Now that I am one, I feel the need to work hard and take care of the people that I love. I have always been doing more than what is expected and I have been pretty successful so far, so I really don't see what is wrong with that? But just because that is what I am used to, should I continue doing it or should i take more time to stop and smell the roses? What do you think?

Cashing in on Your Misfortune: Turn Your Frown Upside Down

Some people have a knack for making lemonade out of lemons, taking a rainy cloud and turning it into profit, fame and fortune. If I could do that, I would be a trillionaire. But somehow I fail to see how my uncle’s recent passing or my mum falling ill somewhat of a cash cow. One thing is for sure, misery loves company that would explain why most people who are unhappy would usually, very readily share their rainy cloud with you. I digress, sharing your misfortune with others help them cope with theirs.

Recently I wrote about Eat, Pray Love…I seemed to have missed the point completely. Although I wasn’t particularly impressed with the book and the movie is supposedly even worst. Here is a woman who has turned her divorce, a crippling experience for most into a New York Times Bestseller. She has turned her inability to hang on to a union made before God and man and turned into an adventure to foreign countries, sampling food, spirituality and romance. She didn’t sit around mope and cry over her spilt milk, she made it into a Hollywood hit! So now I look at Elizabeth Gilbert through new eyes. I heard of a man here in Malaysia, who was so moved by the tsunami that hit Asia in 2004 that he traveled to all the countries hit by the raging waters and made a moving documentary of the people and their lives after the storm. He is now immortalized in the hearts of the people that he encountered and the people that he has touched through his film. While another radio personality who survived the tsunami in Sri Lanka and went back a year later to help the people there. She looks at life in a way that most people could only dream about, she is fearless.

So what have I learned about life’s tragedy, that some people handle it much better than others. Some people can cash in on it while other grabs life by the horns…make it almost seem silly for all that crying fussing now but I am gonna try it…the next time something bad happens… I am gonna turn it around…How? You will just have to wait and see.

Sticks and Stones Will Break Your Bones & Words WILL Hurt You

Whoever came up with the term “sticks and stones may break your bones but words can never hurt you.”….LIED!! I have grown to realize how hurtful words can be. I never thought that they could be that damaging but sometimes a rash and rude word can change the way someone looks at you for the rest of your life. Don’t get me wrong this is not some preachy blog about how we should all be nice and get along but a recent realization that nothing good comes from saying something bad. This problem is particularly bad for me cause I have rage issues. In my younger years, I have surpressed a lot of hurt and anger and only recently did I start dealing with it. A friend helped me with NLP and that has worked for the most part but every now and again it rears its ugly head to come back and haunt me. So how do I make sure that I don’t lose my head the next time I have an argument with someone. Before I get into that, I wanted to find out where this anger stems from and I stumbled upon this finding:Where Angry Feelings Come From?University of Pittsburgh researchers found that anger and hostility in women could be caused by biological factors, such as an alteration in a serotonin receptor gene. Low serotonin levels can also lead to depression and obsessive compulsive tendencies -- and possibly even anxiety disorders.Now this fact makes me feel better, my anger is not a conscious decision but a chemical imbalance. This doesn’t mean I am not about to start drugging myself to diffuse my anger but it simply helps me accept the fact about me losing control a little better.Now that I understand the anger, all I have to do is….

1. Take a timeout from the person that I am angry with
2. Deep breaths and calm myself before I even utter a word
3. Write, I have always loved writing and this would be an interesting entry to my dairy ;)
4. When I do discuss the matter, use “I” words like “I feel” instead if “You did” and “You are” and “You always”
5. If possible use humor to diffuse the situation, but if not done correctly… this could backfire so I use step 5 with caution.

I never want to see the hurt I caused recently when my tongue went on a rampage after I had lost my cool. So I hope the Mayo Clinic knows what they’re talking about when it comes to Anger Management. I will let you know if it works…

My weapons in the warfare of marriage (If that day ever comes….)

If you’ve been following my blogs you would have known two thingsabout me, I am a commitment-phob and I am currently in a relationship.Those of you reading this for the first time will laugh out loud andalthough funny at first. I am seriously struggling with the fact thatI love someone and I need to do ME. However because I am in love, I amtaking baby steps to make this one work. Recently I decided to do someresearch to see how much support one can get without having to rely onmummy and daddy when things go wrong in a marriage. In my quest, Istumbled upon this website or rather another blog that I think wouldcome in handy in case I need to keep the flame going in a union thatdooms you to one partner FOR YOUR ENTIRE LIFE.

(And if you wondering, yes my boyfriend has been talking aboutmarriage and yes I am freaked out!)

Simply named http://strengtheningmarriage.com/ it gives you practicalsolutions to intimate problems in a marriage that you would normallybe afraid to talk about. The website has articles and videos that takeyou through the nitty gritty issues that we Asians shy from. Theseissues however are crucial to a successful marriage and I for one, amnot ashamed to admit that probably 20 years into a relationship withMr. Right, might make you look at him as Mr Write-Off. So yes, if itmeans I have to intellectualize something that came naturally before,so be it.

The next tool I came across was a book from John Gottman titled TheSeven Principles for Making Marriage Work: A Practical Guide from theCountry's Foremost Relationship Expert. If you ask me, the title isway too long for it to be memorable, but it’s a great book. In thisNew York Times bestseller, the author shatters the common myth ofcommunication being the key to a healthy marriage. Thank goodness,someone had the common sense to come up with this conclusion. Nomatter how much we would like to believe it, sometimes talking tothings out only makes matters worst. So the gist of it is to find asolution that is workable for

My third and final tool is observation, I have the privilege of havinga lot of married friends and although I might not want to confide inthem all the time… I do think observing the dynamics of therelationship between man and wife and trying to apply some positivebehaivours like being your partner’s biggest cheerleaders or justbeing a listening ear without trying to fix the problem goes a longway.
3 tools for a lifetime of challenges, what do you think? Do I have a chance?

Eat Pray Love

In 2007 my close friend Ruby gave me a book as a going away present. (She was the one going away, mind you and I got a present, don't you love my friends!) The title of the book was Eat Pray Love by Elizabeth Gilbert. It's story about one woman's self-discovery. She recently got a divorce and decided that she wanted to find herself again...she travels the world picking the brains of the people she meets and tries to open herself up to new and very different experiences. Her travels take her to 3 places, Italy, India and Indonesia. I can't say that it was the best book that I have read but I took something away from it like I do most books.

Sometime last year, I heard that they were planning to make a movie from the book and Julia Roberts was to star in it. Now the movie is out in the US and it has all these women talking about the meaning of it. I didn't realise what a great marketing gimmick this would be cause when you get a word of mouth publicity about a movie that is meant to be appeal to more intellectual, you really don't need much else before people start flocking into what i would guess to be a less than mediocre film.





The trailer for the movie : http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iZzmqHJ0gPU

Maybe it would mean more to Americans since a lot of them don't travel outside of their own borders and the mystical Asian ways are all very new to them but looking at it from an Asian perspective and having done my fair share of travels and diary entries.... What I want to know is, what's the big deal?

What a load of....

For fun, I like reading the horoscope section in the newspaper and when you read enough of them, you find a way to relate your life to what is being said, I think I am making it quite obvious here that I am buying into this whole prediction by planets nonsense. I have to say though there are varying degrees, we are all superstitious when it comes to life and love. I remember my mum telling me that if you finished the plate that you would remain a spinster... must have been the curse of the FOOD GOD.... I have also heard such silliness like you should never get married on Friday the 13th or your life will be doomed to misery. But the best one of all was to think of five or six names of boys or girls you might marry, As you twist the stem of an apple, recite the names until the stem comes off. You will marry the person whose name you were saying when the stem fell off. I knew for a fact that I truly did not believe in superstition when I heard this:

Monday's child is fair of face;
Tuesday's child is full of grace;
Wednesday's child is full of woe;
Thursday's child has far to go;
Friday's child is loving and giving;
Saturday's child works hard for a living.
But the child that is born on the Sabbath day
is fair and wise, good and gay.

I am born on a Tuesday and if you know me, I am far from graceful unless they mean that there is a little woman by the name of Grace living inside of me and somehow I imagine her getting bigger by the day (think I just scared myself). Although, I did admit that there are varying degrees of superstitions so although I think that a lot of the superstitions are a load of crock... I have superstitions of my own.

When it comes to my own pantangs, well let's say I never go out with people who are overly-suspicious! :)

My baby!!

My Pancho and my cousin, Kristin

So my Pancho (dog) got really sick for the first time, I had to admit him at the animal medical centre, in Jalan Tun Razak..man it was the worst scare ever. He started purging then there was blood in his poo and soon enough it was just blood. I have never been so scared in my life....after rushing him to the animal hospital in the wee hours of the night, I found out that I had to leave him there...that was the hardest thing...he looked so scared and sick... and I never knew how much I loved my dog till that very moment. Turns out he had a bacteria infection in his intestines. He is back home now and recovering, the doctor said that it was something he ingested... so now when we are out on walks I am super paranoid, like those really irritating, over-bearing parents... I hope I don't turn out to be one. But for right now, I am just too relieved that my dog is ok and on the way to recovering. What a scare!

Bungee..eee.eee!

I think I have mentioned this a million times, but I can't say it enough, I am afraid of heights. Every time I have to climb a ladder to some dusting, I fear for my life. (I know, I am a drama queen). Anyway.... the Red FM Breakfast Show decided that it would be fun for all the announcers to bungee jump and even surprised Hazim(our weekend jock) that he would have to jump at the last minute... so we get to Sunway Lagoon and my heart is beating so hard it feels like its gonna fly out of my chest. All our lovely listeners arrive shortly to support us and we're off. Next thing I know we're on the bridge being weighed in like animals just before the slaughter. I was the meatiest so if we were being slaughtered I would be prime-cut...but I digress.

We got to see Richard from Bungy Malaysia again, the first time I met him was the Red FM Breakfast Birthday Bash. He was so bubbly and great to be around that it was hard to forget him. Meeting him again cheered me up a little but it was a temporary distraction...the nerves started to set again and I can distinctively remember saying that I did want to be one of the last to jump (but I was). Soon enough it was my turn and low and behold, I am standing at the edge of the platform ready to jump. 5,4,3,2,1...Bungeeeee!!!

What a rush! It was one of the most free-ing experience ever. I think its funny I use the term free-ing cause my love-handles were apparently freed as well.

Now I can look back and laugh at the whole experience and I am really glad the morning guys made us do it. Cause I don't think I would have had the cahoonas to have done it myself. So thanks guys! I owe ya and thanks Bungy Malaysia...one fear down, a million more to overcome and you can bet your bottom dollar I am going to blog about it

The money bungee shot! (Thanks Dalbir)

Now what?

So you know I am dating someone and he is a darling. I can't believe I have someone this kind, who loves me this much and for the life of me, I don't know what I did to deserve this.

That being said, the sad fact is that he can't say the same thing. I have no time for him and between family commitments, work, my girls, my dog and the million other things that I need to juggle...I just can't seem to find the time to truly show him how much I care. So this blog entry is a cry for help! How do you juggle it all? What should I do? I don't want him to think that he is second-fiddle to everyone and everything else. But at the same time I don't want to neglect my responsibilities to my loved ones. What am I to do?

Femme City 2010

So I got to hang out in KLCC for the first ever Femme City exhibition for women, organised by The Star. YB Dato' Senator Sharizat Abdul Jalil, one of our most graceful and poised ministers, I was so proud to be apart of such a festive and momentous occasion. The fashion shows, talks and promotions were truly fantastic. My hats to the organisers, the Dress A'Flair, a fashion show by local designers at the exhibition was the peak to a historical event. I got to wear an evening dress by one of my favourite local designers Eric Choong. I felt like Carey Bradshaw but brown :). It was definitely a highlight for me and I was truly happy to be there.

Photos of the festivities: http://web.red.fm/Archives/Archives/Pages/Femme_City_%40_KLCC.html

Pacho and me

I recently acquired a dog and he is one of the best things that ever happened to me. Since returning to Malaysia, (I was working and studying in the States) I have been yearning for a pet. Cause I live with mum and she was dead-set against it I never got one. However my pooch came into my life by accident. My brother's friend was moving to Brisbane for work and couldn't afford to bring his dog over with him so my brother volunteered to help find him a home. We housed the dog here in my home for a little while... and my brother put an ad out on the internet. Several people came to see the dog, but because Pancho (that's the dog's name) is a very sensitive and temperamental he didn't really warm up to anyone except me :) (I think you know where this story is headed) So I begged and pleaded with mum to let me keep him and after 2/3 weeks of constant whining, she caved. Now Pancho is part of the family and is such a joy in my life. I love him very much although most don't. (cause he's not very friendly) But all that matters is that I have Pancho and he has me!

My darling Pancho

When It Rains It Pours

We have all gone through a stressful period in our life and sometimes it just feels like all the bad things in your life happens at once. Hence the term "When it rains. it pours!" I know that in no way I am special and have it particularly harder than most but it is hard to not get down on yourself when bad things happen. But here is where you know who truly loves you. When things get hard and times get bad, you rely on your loved ones to help you get through it and make you stronger. That's how I get by. I can only hope that you have the same.

So here's an ode to everyone who has helped me through my hard times:

We all have a cherished garden we tend -
It is planted with love of family and friends.
The memories and dreams we treasure and share
Are like beautiful roses found blooming there.
The comfort and care on which we depend
Is given with love between family and friends.
The sunshine of laughter and rain of a tear
Only make our love grow with each passing year.
We may all be ourselves with no need to pretend
Because of the love of family and friends;
They notice the rainbows and weather the showers.
They overlook weeds and praise all our flowers.
The most valuable thing is the time that we spend
Tending this garden with family and friends.
When counting our blessings, we know from the start
That family and friends come first in our heart.

© Jill Wolf

My Brother's Big Day

My brother got married a year ago in Singapore but since he moved to KL, he thought that it would be nice to relived the moment with his family and friends here. Needless to say the planning was painful but when it came together it was simply beautiful.

He married this angel who I now call my sister-in-law. This was one wedding that I really didn't have to do much. You wouldn't believe how relieved I was to know I wasn't emceeing it. Except that I had to give a speech as the Maid of Honour and what an honour indeed.

Since weddings warm my heart I thought I would share that moment with you and hopefully it will spread the warm and fuzzies to you too.

My brother and his two best men (Rim, My brother[Mark] and Gordon)



My beautiful sis-in-law, Cindy



The girls getting ready



Shereen, one of my best friends (She helped so much at the wedding)




Fast forward - Cake Cutting



My darlings from Red FM, there to support (Nick, Shareena, Mary, Terry and Aly)



Aly was our emcee that night! She did a fantastic job and made my mum her fan




Their first dance



My beautiful family



My brother-in-law and Cindy's cousins



Me and the sister I have always wanted

Welcome to the family Cindy!!

You should know better...well we don't

I have been getting complaints from my significant other that I am a lot like a guy. I am a little too relaxed when it comes to dealing with relationship issues. I am not really fussed about shopping and going for movies. Instead I am obsessed about going to the gym, eating way more than i should and salvaging an ego that is way too big for my own good.

Good thing the man that I have met is patient, sweet and willing to give in even when he knows he is right.

Every time I talk to my girlfriends and hear them complain about their boyfriends, they have the same complaints as mine boyfriend does about me. When I try to explain to them that this is simply the way we are. They get upset with me. But let me tell you something ladies and some gentlemen... you want us to be sensitive enough to know what you want without you telling us, yet when we get it wrong again you get angry. Its a lose-lose situation, there is simply no winning with that one. So do me a favour... don't expect, explain. Even if it seems like we should know by now, just humour us and say it anyway. Is it really that hard to do?

Summer Fest @ Hard Rock Penang

Last month we went up to Penang and had a blast at the Summer Fest 2010. What more could a girl ask for.... amazing bands throughout the day, good food, drink a flowing and company of amazing people. (I am in such a good mood that Terry is included in the group of amazing people there)

But I have to say the highlight of the whole event was Zainal Abidin, he is an amazing performer and a true professional. Here are some photos I thought I would share.....

These two boys are amazing talents, they play several instruments and they play it well!


Tommy Ong, the man who made it all possible in Hard Rock Penang

Terry enjoying his cocktail on a hot afternoon



Hydra, one of my favourite bands! They are soooo good!


Last but certainly not least, Zainal Abidin...the best part of SummerFest!

The Legend Is True

Now I know that I usually blog about love but today's entry is simply about life. Don't know if I have told you already but I recently bought a house. Its a really small townhouse in Kajang but I think its pretty and perfect for me. I still haven't got the keys yet but I am excited at the prospect of it. I am going through the usual problems that a new home owner goes through and I have no qualms about that. But since I am as poor as a church mouse I could use all the financial help that I can get. Here's where my story begins....

Naturally when you have no money, you use all the available resources to help you out. So I recently went to EPF, to withdraw some money under the first home scheme. Now I had heard some nightmare stories of people returning to the office, time and time again because they got the documentation for the application process wrong. So this is what I did to avoid the much-talked about nightmare reoccurring in my circumstance, I went online to see what I needed. Then, I double-checked with an EPF officer before getting everything I needed. I thought that I would be one of the few people that would walk out of the EPF office without having to return.

So I get all my papers in order, photocopy everything that is needed plus I bring all the original copies then I even double-check with the checklist. I go to the "Semakan Dokumen" Counter and wait with baited breath....."Pleease tell me I don't have to come back and I have everything I need." ..... Success!! The man at the counter tells me what I want to hear. I go to the other counter just to hand in my papers.... "Yay! I am out of the woods!!" Or so I think.....

The lady at the counter tells me that my developer's lawyers have to have their company stamp on the S&P agreement and my application would be rejected without it. So now I have to see the lawyers and get both copies stamped. I was not the first to get my application through without a hiccup. I was not the one to claim victory over the EPF application. I was not to the one to make history among everyone I knew.

Legend has it, no one ever will!!

Love Has Funny Way

I was always a late bloomer. For most of my life, I believed I was a boy. Only towards the later part of my life (when I started to develop) I realised that I was truly a girl. Had a few crushes and met a few people but I never really felt strongly for men.

I first fell in love with a man when I was 23. I went out with him for 4 years and thought that I was going to end up marrying him but he wanted something different. After that I never thought that I would end up getting married, quite frankly I gave up on the idea of it. Plus the experiences that some of my married friends were going through, honestly made me believe that marriage is simply not for me. Resigned to the idea that I would be one of those people that most people would wonder about, I went about my life quite happily...if there someone there to share special moments then great, but if not I wasn't going to cry about it. I learnt to enjoy my own company and to be frank, I haven't found someone that I truly enjoy being around with as much.

But life has a way of throwing you curve balls and recently I have been looking at life a little differently. Am I going to end up someone's Mrs after all? We'll see how this one goes. Will keep you posted :)

How Do You Know That You're in Love?

The other day my cousin came up to me and asked me, what I think to be the toughest question you could ever ask..."How do you know when you're in love?" My mum simply retorted, "You will know." Now although that answer is truthful, I think it is less than sufficient. You see my mum comes from years and years of experience of different types of love and she knows that it simply can't be summorised for my cousin to understand. She would have to experience it for herself.

However for me, love is not thinking about your boyfriend/girlfriend all the time. Love is not the butterflies in your stomach when you see that special someone. Love is not chocolates, flowers and surprise gifts, that my friend, is infatuation. Love happens when you get passed that stage. Its the patience you have for someone even when you know you've seen this happen a million times and instead of saying "I told you so", you say "Its gonna be alright." Its the strength you show when you know you should be at your weakest. Its being there for them even when you hate seeing what's going on. Its sticking through the hard times while being thankful for the easy ones. Its the knowledge that love doesn't fade without you allowing it to happen. Its working at it and never giving up. Finally true love is letting someone go even when all you want is for them to be yours forever and trusting that if it was meant to be they will come back to you......eventually.

How Can We Be Lovers?

There comes a time in every love songs radio jock's life that they want to meet the people behind the mushy love-dovey songs they play and talk to them about their lives to find out what inspires them to put their feelings into song. Well this radio jock got that opportunity, on Friday's show I talked to Michael Bolton. Now it was an exhilarating experience being able to talk to the man who wrote "How Am I Supposed to Live Without You." As we warmed up, chatting about his past and how he's carrier had developed, I must admit that i had remind myself constantly not to giggle like a school girl or sound too much like a a fan... "Be professional Nisha, just be cool!". But man, oh man.... he's as poetic when he speaks and it was hard for me to hold back that slowly I was falling in love with Michael Bolton. So when he finally admitted that he was single, I jumped at the chance to offer my services as his potential girlfriend.... he's on his way to South East Asia anyway and if there was a chance I was going to make my way into Michael Bolton's heart as he did mine.... this would be my only opportunity. So am I going to stalk him and meet him in Singapore?.... cause after the interview, he did say that if I ever were at one of his concerts that I could come up and say hi. Now most people wouldn't take it seriously but since I have now become almost scarily obsessed with the man and his music....I think I just might.

So far so good

So by now I think everyone knows that I starting a brand new relationship and I must say it is going rather well. (Hope I don't jinx it!)

I met his mother for the first time yesterday. There were no awkward silences cause American Idol was playing in the background, so every time we had nothing to say to one another we would comment about the contestants and how well they were doing in the show. We also discussed about the future of American Idol contestants, we both agreed that without Simon Cowell the show will be useless.

But enough of American Idol, I also met his sister. She is so sweet, I could seriously see myself getting comfortable in this family (mind you it hasn't been 2 months).

I blame it on the age, I think when I date now... I am thinking about the whole package. I am still a little afraid of commitment but I have to admit in this relationship, (if it keep going the way it is now) it won't be hard for me to get over it.

Will keep you posted :)

Man, this one will make you laugh out LOUD!!

I don't know whether you have read this but if you haven't you must.... too funny!

Subject: Letter from India

My dear Jagjit,

I am in a well here and hoping you are also in a well there. I'm
writing this letter slowly, because I know you cannot read fast.

We are not living where we did when you left home. Your dad read
in the newspaper that most accidents happen 20 miles from home,
so we moved 20 miles.

I am not able to send the address, as the last Sardar who stayed
here took the house numbers with them for their new house so
they would not have to change their address. Hopefully by next
week we will be able to take our earlier address plate here, and
that our address will remain same too.

This place is really nice. It even has a washing machine,
situated right above the toilet. But I'm not sure it works too
well. Last week I put in 3 shirts, pulled the chain, and haven't
seen them since.

The weather here isn't too bad. It rained only twice last
week. The first time it rained for 3 days and second time for 4 days.

The coat you wanted me to send you, your Aunt said it would be
a little too heavy to send in the mail with all the metal
buttons, so we cut them off and put them in the pocket.

Your father has another job. He has 500 men under him. He is
cutting the grass at the cemetery.

By the way, I took Bahu (daughter-in-law) to our club's poolside. The manager is
Badmash. He told her that two piece swimming suit is not allowed
in his club.
We were confused as to which piece we should remove?

Your sister had a baby this morning. I haven't found out whether
it is a girl or a boy, so I don't know whether you are an Aunt
or Uncle.

Your uncle, Jetinder fell in the nearby well. Some men tried to
pull him out, but he fought them off bravely and drowned. We
cremated him and he burned for three days.

Your best friend, Balwinder, is no more. He died trying to
fulfill his father's last wishes. His father had wished to be
buried in the sea after he died. And your friend died while in
the process of digging a grave for his father.

There isn't much more news this time. Nothing much has happened.

Love,
Mom.

P.S : Jagjit, I was going to send you some money but by the time
I realized, I had already sealed off this letter.

Red FM's Skool Daze Earth Hour Party in Penang

So we went down to penang last weekend and had a blast, our long-time listeners and friends, Carol and Jeffrey were there to support the event and I made a few new friends in Penang. I have to say that I have really warmed up to the Penangites, I think that there is something in the air of the island that make them friendly and just fun to be around. Tiki lights and tea lamps set the mood for the Earth hour party and did I mention that it was a pool party, where the DJ console was errected in the pool. How cool is that??!! People really started to get into it after a couple of games and lucky draws... I have to say the snacks and drinks helped as well to set the mood for the festivities.

The party was gorgeous!



Food was fantastic!



Jeff and Carol partying with the crew!

Throughout the night we (JD, Dilly and I) gave out fun facts about Earth hour ( prepared by Adrian, our angel behind the scenes). Lights turned off at 8:30pm and the party started heating up... We laughed, we gave out prizes including a Revelation Rewards holiday package worth RM30,000. Not to mention, music from yesteryear to bring back some great memories. Man, it was great time!! I can't wait to party in Penang again. Thanks Penang I had a blast!

JD charming the ladies



Some listeners were dressed to kill!



My new found friends



The games were laugh out loud fun!



Man, we had a great time!

They Got Me Good

So you would know by now that JD and Dilly have been playing pranks on all the jocks in the name of 40 minute Forfeits. I thought that I was just going to be set up on a blind date but little did I know that they had the whole room set up for a disaster date. Bad enough I was late, but my date decides to arrive later. He brings me flowers and chocolates, but here is the best part...he eats some of the chocolates cause he's apparently stuck in a jam. Then we start talking and he doesn't seem quite interested but when someone comes up to me to get my autograph cause he is apparently a fan of the show.... he gets all huffed about the man interrupting the date. In my head I am thinking.... "Dude, its really not that serious." Anyway, the worst of it was towards the end when Jd shows up disguised as a special-needs waiter and accidentally bumps into Nik (my date). Niks almost comes to blows with him when JD reveals its all a joke!! Unbelievable!!

Check out the latest 40 Minute Forfeits Video

http://web.red.fm/Red_FM/Videos.html

www.laugh-out-loud

If you know me, you would know that I love to laugh. I am note necessarily funny (although I might be funny looking) but I am a fan of anything that makes one giggle uncontrollably. I am attracted to funny people and I try to laugh as much as I can because honestly my life is a comedic tragedy, but that story is for another day. I also have to confess that I have the most annoying tick, when I am nervous, extremely frustrated or just plain right sad.... I laugh till I tear. I don't know why it happens and how it came about but it happens. I have managed to annoy a lot of people that I love because of it. But I will tell you what I tell them, "I can't help it and it is really not my fault. It's a tick that I simply can't control."

But there are some days where I find it hard to even crack a smile and for those days I rely on the internet. I have been scouring the world wide web and have come up with a few sites that help me on grey days and if you need a pick me up I would suggest:

1. The Fail Blog is a site that highlights the common stupidity of man. A good lesson on how you need to be able to laugh at yourself and others when you do or come up with something stupid.
http://failblog.org/

2. The Darwin Awards is a site dedicated to those who improve our gene pool...by accidentally removing themselves from it.
http://www.darwinawards.com/

3. A Lady with a Wicked Sense of Humour

http://www.blog-blond.blogspot.com/

Let me know if you have favourites, always looking for more great sites.

Cheers!