Thursday, October 22, 2009

How to Cope with a Bad Day

So times have been a bit rough for me lately. And I have been trying to get out of a slump, so what do i do? I google how to cope with a bad day and this is what i got :

http://www.ehow.com/how_4536884_cope-bad-day.html

Instructions
  1. Step 1

    Remind yourself that whatever you are dealing with is only temporary. Think back to another really bad day or period of time in your life, noting that the whole thing is now nothing but a memory. Repeat to yourself that, as every second ticks away, today will soon be history.

  2. Step 2

    Shut yourself away in your car, your bedroom, or the bathroom–anywhere you can be alone and undisturbed. Crank up the radio or your MP3 player, blasting songs that speak to you. If you feel like screaming to an angry playlist, go for it. If you just want some sad songs to cry to, that is OK, too. Just let it all out, knowing that someone else shared these feelings, wrote a song about it, and got through it.

  3. Step 3

    Call off from work, put on your comfiest jammies and climb into bed with your remote and a bowl of mint chocolate chip. Treat yourself the way you would your very best friend or precious child. You are valuable and deserve to be treated as such. As long as it is not an everyday thing, you can indulge yourself.

  4. Step 4

    Find someone who is having a worse day than you and help them. Volunteer to serve food at your local homeless shelter. Read the local section of your paper. No doubt there is an accident victim who might benefit from a pint of your blood, or a family whose home has burned down and would appreciate your small donation.

  5. Step 5

    Look for five good things about this day. Your job might be stressful, but the just laid-off man whose wife is in the hospital would trade spots with you in a heartbeat. Your house might need repairs, your significant other may get on your nerves, and your children might cause you constant worry. For every one of those concerns there is something to be grateful for. By focusing on the positive your attitude will adjust and the day will immediately seem brighter.


Great advice but what if you're stuck at work. Here are some great suggestions:

http://www.wikihow.com/Cope-with-Having-a-Bad-Day-at-Work

Steps

  1. Deal with the pressure crunch. Accept that nobody is a superperson and that mistakes happen when too much is attempted at any one time. Don't take to heart the mistakes that get made when juggling too much under time constraints; they are bound to happen.
  2. Get the right person doing the right thing. If reformatting is stumping you, a legal issue has arisen and the support staff are whining about the milk supply all at once, it isn't a good idea to be their answer, at least not there and then. Delegate immediately to those best able to respond. You don't need to be a manager to delegate - cross-delegate to those colleagues who are clearly able to deal with the issues.
  3. Go the bathroom and have a good cry/sit/deep breathe/stretch/air-punch. Get it out in privacy. If this means going to the bathroom several flights above or below where nobody knows you, do it! If not the bathroom, take a 5 - 10 minute break outdoors and away from the place.
  4. Ask for help. Don't wallow in self-pity thinking the world is crumbling around you. If you don't understand something, don't want to do something or find something harder than you expected, it is not a shameful thing to ask for help. That is what others are there for. What people do hate is when a person neglects to seek help and then stuffs up.
  5. Go home early where warranted. If a day is bad because you brought a bundle of home issues with you, sometimes nothing will turn that around. For some people, work is an escape from home issues but sometimes even for them, the enormity of something happening in your personal life is too large for work to help you forget. If you feel exhausted, teary, distressed and liable to explode and say inappropriate things, it is probably a good idea to call it a day and go home and sort issues out.
  6. Don't take snide comments to heart. If you are having a bad day because someone said something nasty to you, grin and bear it. It is important to not over-inflate the unhelpful or rude observations of colleagues who have a clear agenda to be disruptive, hurtful or unkind. Ask them to explain themselves if this feels appropriate and ask what it is you could do better according to them. But don't let this fester and make your day rotten.


Tips

  • Remember tomorrow will be better and you will probably have a better perspective on things than today.
  • If you keep having a string of bad days, it is likely you need to consider a new job where your self-esteem or enjoyment of it is not constantly battered.
  • There is no shame in changing career streams. If you have constant bad days because you feel out of your depth or you lack interest, it may be due to the fact that you made a bad career choice for your thinking type. Seek counseling assistance on career changes if this is the real underlying reason.

It helped me and hope you're having a bad, it will do the same for you. Have a great day ahead!

Thursday, October 15, 2009

My Personal Favourites

Now that we have Red FM's Threesome on the show, a lot of people have been asking me what is my personal favourites when it comes to love songs. Its funny cause when I finally listed out all the songs I liked, I realised that I love quite a wide genre of music. This is what I mean, my favourites are

Classics:

1. Al Green - Let's Stay Together
2. Etta James - At Last
3. Marvin Gaye - Let's Get It On
4. Frank Sinatra - I Won't Dance
5. Nat King Cole - L-O-V-E
6. The Chordettes - Mr Sandman
7. Dixie Cups - The Chapel of Love
8. Dusty Springfield- Wishin' and Hopin'

Easy Listening:

9. Sting - All Four Seasons
10. The Corrs - One Night
11. Bob Marley - I Wanna Love You
12 Israel Kamakawiwo Ole' - Somewhere Over The Rainbow
13. Lauren Wood - Fallen
14. Elvis Costello - She


Edgy:

15. Queen - Somebody To Love
16. Pearl Jam - Better Man
17. Joan Jett - I Hate Myself for Loving You
18. 311 - Down

Current:

19. The Script - I'm Yours
20. Fergie - Clumsy

Movie Soundtrack :

21. Huey Lewis and Gwyneth Paltrow - Cruisin' (Duets)
22. Rob Base and DJ EZ Rock - It Takes Two (The Proposal)
23.Nicole Kidman and Ewan McGregor - Come What May ( Moulin Rouge)
24. You Got It - Bonnie Rait (Boys on the Side)

Sunday, October 4, 2009

Love Classifieds - MED@Marche

Its been a year and a half since the first Love Classifieds and I have to say we have a long from when we first began. It started out as a speed dating event and is now a party full of fun games, lucky draws and great food. We had so much fun for the last one, not to mention the food at Med@Marche is phenomenal. I was pleased that a lot of the attendees are first-timers and they were so sporting....the games were a little naughty but a lot of them really got into it. Between the laughter and the cheers it was hard for me to get a word in cause most of the time I was laughing so hard. If you haven't been to a Love Classifieds party, it is a must do!

The next one is going to be in PD (Port Dickson) but that's all I am going to tell you for now. You'll have to tune in to find out more, but just to give you a better picture of Love Classifieds...here are a few shots that still put a big smile on my face.


MED@Marche, beautifull!!!



The spread of food was amazing!!



The peg game got everyone laughing



The ping pong game and this is not metaphorical,
I really mean ping pong balls



Watch out!! JD has some serious moves!!!


Everyone at Love Classifieds had a great time!!
Next one, coming up.....